admit it, we’ve all played this game…
it stars out harmlessly with someone unsuitable/inappropriate/or similar expressing admiration/affection/desire/ or similar and we’re naturally flattered.
it feels good and it appears safe to accept. and what is there to fear anyway? there is, of course, no chance of anything real developing with someone so clearly unsuitable/inappropriate/ or similar.
but our acquiescence is a powerful message however passive it may be; we accept and this excites and encourages our suitor. upping the ante is the response and maybe we continue to accept. we laugh at it but still it is titillating, enjoyable, ego-boosting and still safe…so we engage in “harmless” flirting.
but there is a pit in our stomach, a drop in our heart… we are playing…
now we are jerking the chain…and let’s face it, in the games of love and sex, jerking someone’s chain can be fun…
the ante continues to rise and we stay in the game but you can only play for so long until you wake up one morning underneath this totally unsuitable/inappropriate person attached to the chain.
you knew better but what could you do? this poor s.o.b just liked you so much, wanted you so badly and hell, was even very funny…now you feel guilty, so maybe you continue so you don’t hurt their feelings.
you remember why you felt your stomach sinking at the start because now you are chained to the jerk whose chain you were jerking!
the upper hand is all about perspective. sometimes we lose strength by flexing certain muscles.
this is the very real risk of jerking the chain…
*photo still from belle du jour, luis buñuel
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